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Relationships/Happiness

Science says having this at work makes you happier and more successful. I think it does the same for your relationship.

I have a good marriage. I know I do, and I’m proud of it (not perfect or superior, but happy and rock-solid).

What makes our relationship thrive is much more than the fact that we’ve always been deeply in love and committed to each other.

We’ve weathered so many storms and come out stronger and better as we enter the stretch towards 20 years together.

We’ve overcome obstacles, such as serious illness, deaths, toxic extended family relationships, multiple job losses, and serious money issues.

But instead of weakening and breaking us, they made us stronger together and galvanized our relationship.


Happiness/Gratitude

Don’t worry. It’s Negativity Bias, and we all have it. I say you can use it to grow and heal.

Today I’m going to make a list of people and events that have hurt me.

That’s right, I’m taking names, and believe me, I have a good memory when it comes to pain.

Actually, studies confirm that we all do. It’s not just me.

Negative events have a bigger impact on all of us than positive ones.

They involve more thinking, the information is processed more thoroughly, and we actually use stronger language to describe them.

Which makes sense because if something affects us negatively, we’ll instinctively want to remember it.

In our modern world, something negative might just be…


Dating/Happiness

Now that we’re getting back to normal, here are some in-person dating tips to up your game.

Now that the world is getting back to normal, it might be time to start dating again soon if you’re single.

You might have been doing a lot of browsing during the last year or so, but when the world opens back up, you’ll probably want to have some in-person quality time with a few new prospects.

And of course, the ultimate goal is to find someone special.

For many young people, their love-life ground to a halt about a year and a half ago, but even without the complications caused by Covid, about half of all American’s surveyed by…


Recreation/Psychology

No matter how much food for thought you consume, science says your brain enjoys this snack.

Out on the interwebs content is king.

It’s a wonderland of written words.

I love the selection, the depth, and breadth of pieces available — but no matter how much food for thought I come across, I always find myself nibbling.

Logging on is like going to the literary pantry and sometimes you just want a snack, something fast and tasty, a little nibble, to keep you going.

That’s when you reach for the snickers bar of articles, the listicle.

If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone.

Research has found that people like to categorize information into “chunks.”

Since people…


Work/Money

I started a business with $50 and no plan, here’s how.

“Money grows on the tree of persistence.” — Japanese Proverb

Lots of people are struggling financially right now, I get it, I’ve been there.

My life has been a financial rollercoaster, and I’ve been low more than I’ve been high.

I think most of us probably feel that way.

But finding extra income isn’t always as simple as getting a second job.

Being an Uber or Skip The Dishes driver isn’t practical for everyone.

Some pre-pandemic side-hustles aren’t as available as they used to be — think house cleaning, dog walking, tutoring. …


Life/Aging

If you think you can’t be happy as you age, think again.

“Aging is not ‘lost youth’ but a new stage of opportunity and strength.” Betty Friedan

I turn 54 this month, and I’ve never been happier.

I feel beautiful, happy, optimistic, and successful, and it seems I’m not alone.

Studies show that even though people assume they’ll get less happy as they age, that’s not necessarily true.

The truth is people the older people get, the happier they are.

I’d never have thought this could be possible when I was young.

When you’re in your teens, twenties, and thirties, someone whose fifty seems ancient.

When you’re young, you feel like that’s…


Relationships/Happiness

A solid relationship can withstand just about anything.

Every relationship has times when it feels like the world’s against you.

Stress builds up, stuff happens, and life gets in the way.

Long-term relationships are just like that.

My husband and I have been through some rough times — job losses (once both of us in the same month), serious illness (emergency open-heart surgery), and death (my husband lost both parents in eight months.)

So things for us haven’t always been smooth.

In addition, we’ve had toxic family relationships, the everyday pressures of parenthood, and countless irritations and setbacks.

These things probably wouldn’t have been so bad, taken one…


Psychology/Happiness

She might pull a muscle rolling her eyes, but I’m going to keep telling her these things.

Ask anyone for a piece of advice to live by, and I guarantee you, everyone will have at least one.

Because we all travel through life making mistakes, doing stupid things, and taking chances, we either wish we hadn’t or can’t believe we lived through.

And as we go, we stockpile the wisdom from these events inside our brains so we can pass it on one day.

Even before you pee on the stick, you plan for that day.

The day you’ll sit them down and tell them everything they need to know about life. The talk you’ll have, the…


Science/Self

It’s like trying to have a relationship with a ghost.

It’s pretty common knowledge that time seems to move faster or slower according to a bunch of different factors:

  • how much you have to do
  • how much you’re enjoying yourself
  • what you’re dreading or looking forward to happening in the future

So how we perceive it can be manipulated by circumstance — research backs this up, it’s not news to a busy mom or someone stressed out by a deadline.

But until the onset of Covid-19, researchers only had ordinary life experiences to use for their findings.

That all changed in early 2020 when Covid-19 hit.

With so many people…

Erin King

Writer, musician, toddler wrangler. Author: “How To Be Wise AF”, a 30-day prompted journal-find out more on Amazon. Contact me at e.king.cooks@gmail.com

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