Did you feel like an outcast and a bit of a loser in high school because you don’t really like people?
Did Alley Sheedy’s character in The Breakfast Club hit a little too close to home?
If you’ve always felt like an unimportant outsider, take heart. Science wants you to know something.
According to a study by Princeton University, human outsiders are not alone. It’s not just humankind that produces loners.
But in the natural world, it’s called being “Out of sync” with the rest of the population. And now that they’re looking for them, scientists are finding loners everywhere.
I kind of like that; I’m not different. …
“Pull up a chair. Take a taste. Come join us. Life is so endlessly delicious.”
― Ruth Reichl
For many years, my husband and I struggled to pay our bills as we navigated this brave new world of part-time contracts and job insecurity.
Throughout that time, we managed to live well and stay strong because we learned to make more from less, and one fundamental way we’ve done that is through food.
My time as a personal chef taught me that it’s possible to make delicious rich, satisfying meals with everyday ingredients. …
Writing is a skill that improves with time, and in the world of Medium, we have a safe space to grow and evolve.
Evolution is a marathon, not a sprint, and as we improve, we leave behind some of the best of ourselves in past articles.
Everything from your headline to your tagline counts, and with every article you write, you read ten on how to improve, over time that research pays off. But what of our previous pieces?
I wondered what would happen if I went back to a piece I thought deserved a better reception than it got and re-worked it. …
First of all, let me apologize to my vegetarian friends.
I’m using ground beef in this post. You could substitute vegetarian ground beef (seasoned with lime and marmite to punch up the flavor), and if you wanted to make it healthier, you could use ground chicken or turkey.
Also, there are NO affiliate links in this story, anything I mention is something I use and love.
Anybody who reads my food posts knows I was a personal chef for ten years. …
“Power is in tearing human minds to pieces and putting them together again in new shapes of your own choosing.”
― George Orwell, 1984
Wouldn’t it be great if there was a way to protect yourself against misinformation? A way to make sure you don’t get fooled again, particularly if you’ve fallen for it before?
Well, if you’ve been taken in by false information, don’t feel bad. Not only does it happen to the best of us, but knowing you’ve fallen for it might be the key to immunizing yourself from it in the future.
The Association for Psychological Science has discovered that pointing out misinformation helps you remember the truth. …
You know the saying “little things mean a lot” well, that’s true for all areas of life, including personal transformation.
Sometimes it doesn’t take years of therapy or perseverance to make a meaningful change.
Sometimes a five-minute effort can pay off in huge ways.
Here are five ways to potentially change your life that take about 5 minutes to execute.
They might require some follow-through or additional work after the fact, but you can get the ball rolling with about 5 minutes of effort.
So have a look at this little list and see if there’s a place in your life you could implement one of these fast-acting…
I’ve had a home daycare for almost 10 years now. It’s taught me a lot about how we develop and become who we are, but I feel like it’s also lifted the veil on one particular spiritual mystery.
Anybody with more than one kid will tell you that every kid is totally different. Just because your first potty trained by ten months doesn’t mean your next won’t wait until the week before kindergarten to ditch the diaper.
Humans are a mixed bag of developmental imperatives and environmental cues, but the one thing that anchors these things is personality.
That’s the wild card, and what’s led me to believe that we indeed do have past lives. We bring baggage with us from the past, recognize people we’ve known before and come with lessons — some learned, some yet to be. …
Disclaimer: If you think any of these suggestions are good, you have the right to your opinion. If you try any of them, please let me know how they worked for you. I’m genuinely interested.
Of all the bad advice I’ve ever read anywhere on the internet, this might just be the worst.
From How to Find Gifts for People Who Bug You on WikiHow, this is possibly the worst advice I’ve ever read in my life, and I spend a lot of time on social media.
This advice is so bad it comes with a warning which I’ll share at the end. …
Remember all the times before,
That you felt lost and lonely,
That you didn’t know if you’d make it,
Remember the child,
Left out, bullied, belittled,
Unprotected in the places that should be safe,
You made it through,
Through to the next test,
You thought the world was going to end,
Teenage angst and unremembered trauma,
Exacerbated by cold war school films,
If you hear the siren hide under your desk,
Years of terror, never sleeping,
Secret eating, never weeping,
Sowing the seeds of self-medication,
So tired, never dreaming,
Lucid naps, exhausted afternoon slumber,
But you made it…
I have a good marriage. I know I do, and I’m proud of it, (not perfect or superior, but happy and rock-solid).
What makes our relationship thrive is much more than the fact that we’ve always been deeply in love and committed to each other.
We’ve weathered so many storms and come out of them stronger and better as we enter the stretch towards 20 years together. We’ve overcome obstacles that break marriages, such as serious illness, deaths, toxic extended family relationships, multiple job losses.
For us, these are the things that have galvanized our relationship.
My marriage and daughter are my two most significant accomplishments. I know our daughter’s best attributes were forged within the context of our marriage. …