An insider’s guide to potty training: Installment #3 — Don’t Worry About These Things

Now that you’ve decided to go for it, take these off your list of worries.

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When it comes to potty training people have a lot of worries, cross these next few things off your list.

Backtracking.

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A well-meaning older lady diaper-shamed me when my daughter was barely one-year-old.

Unfortunately, my daughter was not ready, and after many accidents and poopy underwear explosions, I realized it was futile. I put her back in diapers.

What’s more harmful is forcing them into underwear and then losing your mind when they continually soil themselves. Because I guarantee, you will snap the 40th time they poop in a pair of underwear, if not way before.

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Put the dream on ice for a bit, and trust that in good time it will happen.

When you put a kid back in diapers who is not ready, this is what they are thinking…” I want a snack. I want to watch Paw Patrol. where’s my milk?” They don’t care that the underwear is gone.

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Although I will tell you that I have potty trained children with different delays and sometimes those are the children who surprise you the most.

If you backtrack, for whatever reason, don’t get too far down the self-loathing rabbit hole. Just pick yourself up and get back on that horse.

Potty treats/rewards.

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My personal philosophy is that I don’t reward people for doing what is expected. I never used them with my daughter, I don’t do it with the children.

It doesn’t really matter, but if you decide to use them, it may set you up for a situation where your child will wilfully backtrack to blackmail you when the treats stop.

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My philosophy has always been to keep things simple and as close to real-life experience with toddlers. Nobody gives me a treat when I take my morning constitution, so why should I teach them that that is a thing.

Diapers vs. pull-ups.

Potty dancing, being “a-big-kid-now,” and anything else you’ve been told about pull-ups is advertising. It’s just an expensive diaper that you can’t re-fasten.

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When they’re ready for underwear, you will drop either of these like a hot stone, and do your own happy dance. When it comes to parenting, you have enough real issues to worry about, don’t make things worse by worrying about things that don’t matter.

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Writer, musician, toddler wrangler. Author: “How To Be Wise AF”, a 30-day prompted journal-find out more on Amazon. Contact me at e.king.cooks@gmail.com

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